O, I don't NEED to extend where I put the perimeters of my spiritual defenses/protections that keep out anyone/anything of malevolent intent or energy feeding to create bonds or hooks to reach me without permission. It's A solution but it doesn't need to be THE solution. It's just the easiest way for me to be able to promise that I would never do that again because the shared bond allows it so he'd be inside my own protections against those hooks to feed on or through him. But maybe that's not a solution that would be of interest to him to try or maybe it might have other unexpected consequences. (In which case I'd default back to how it is now, where nothing gets through my protections without my knowledge or permission EXCEPT anything that uses the passage of the opened floodgates flowing between us of the bond.) It's my BEST idea I have for me to be able to make that most complete promise never to do that again because it would negate the concern of ethics and vulnerability of what could come in via the channel if it can hook into him, but just because it's my BEST answer I have doesn't mean it's the best answer for him or something he would want.... And that's why I'd not act upon the idea without it being his free will choice to have him within my spiritual defenses/protections as opposed to able to get past them as long as he can reach me via the bond. It wouldn't be right of me to try it without his permission and desire that I do it. I just know that if I did it, I would enable me to make that promise and keep it. 

But it may not be necessary, there may be other ways or he may not let that happen again of a connection to someone else allowing him to be a conduit for energy feeding via him and thus making me feel cornered into having to make that choice to protect myself.

I can promise right this moment now that I won't block him from reaching me via the bond by blocking third party attachments to him UNLESS he lets in any attachments or hooks that feed through him as a conduit to prey on others (including me) or anyone who doesn't have adequate defenses due to their connections to him and it using him as conduit. It would be a very niche narrow UNLESS, but  since it came up once within the last year, I can't say if it would come into play again in the future... I honestly don't KNOW what sort of defenses, if any, he has about spiritual attachments or hooks for energy feeding on him or through him.... I don't KNOW if he's found his own ways to keep that from happening again or if he just removed attachments and hooks into him until he found he'd removed everything in the way until he found the path was no longer blocked so he could reach me again via the bond. I don't know if he has natural subconscious spiritual defenses and this was one case of him letting someone in without realizing her nature and how it would affect him or if he's open enough that it could be a problem again in the future with other connections he chooses to form. I don't KNOW. 

There's a lot that I don't know about his spiritual gifts and how he uses them or doesn't. I know he's more tenaciously stubborn than me when he's single minded not distracted, he's stronger in endurance than me at least when it comes to the free flow between us via the bond. Although if the situation were reversed, if for some reason he were trying to shut me out from reaching him via the bond and I was insisting on reconnecting no matter what, I might be the stronger in endurance -- because to fight to open and allow the flow of bond is to work with the natural state of things and what our truest highest selves want and to try to make it sleep or block it in any way is to be working against our own natures/desires no matter the reasons of ethics or rationalizations for why either of us might do it. But honestly, I'd rather not pit our spiritual strengths AGAINST each other, I'd rather use them in support of each other defending/protecting each other from outside things rather than against each other.

But anyway, I could extend my defenses/protections to include him within the sphere of it BECAUSE of the bond between us which is the exception to bypass any generalized defenses/protections I could create. I could do it and it would be easy, but that doesn't mean it's an idea worth pursuing or even necessary. perhaps the promise with the unless clause is enough. Or perhaps he's done enough spiritual growth for the unless clause not to come up again after this time it did.... I dunno. And it's not something that needs to be considered immediately, it's a possibility that exists IF he ever WANTS to take me up on it.

But I mean, I don't actually HAVE any defenses/protections against him (and thus anything that attached onto him to use him as a conduit) you know. No more than he does against me. Even physical distance makes no difference with the bond. I can't actually sever or damage it or in anyway protect against it no more than he can..... The Seelie king agreed for my sake to put the bond to sleep so I wouldn't get inappropriate overlays from his strong emotions with his then girlfriend the scorpion chick. (I don't know that she was a Scorpio or anything, I only know that in dream space she showed up as a scorpion crawling all over his spirit dream polar bear form and hiding in his fur threatening anyone who tried to be close to him. Thus why I refer to her as the scorpion chick. Same as I refer to his girlfriend of a year or year and a half ago who was the source of the negative attachments using him as a conduit to find new energies to feed on as the lamprey woman -- because in spirit dream form she showed up as a lamprey sucking on his life force blood twined all around him fattening up on his energy.) And I learned from observation what it felt like having it dormant put to sleep and so I tried to do the same to force it to stay in that state when my ethics required it of me because I saw no place open/welcome for me in anything he had built his life and happiness around.  That second time was the time he refused to accept it being dormant and threw so much psychic energy into waking it up bringing it back to vibrant aliveness between us.... And after he succeeded at forcing the bond back wide open, I swore I'd not try to put it to sleep again or do anything to damage it or make it dormant because I recognize that it is OUR bond not MY bond and so I need to take his desires about it into consideration. it's not right to do anything to the bond itself (besides nurture it) unless we both want to alter it somehow. And it's BECAUSE of the lack of any defenses or protections against anything reaching me via him, that's why when the perverted Erinyes being attacked down via the bond while I slept until I had dealt with it and traced it back to the lamprey and blocked her energy and anyone with her energy attached in or through it from reaching me at nay time... Which made it so the bond was wide open allowed flow between our souls but he couldn't reach me or the shared space for as long as he had her energy attached or connected to him. 

But I have no defenses or protections against the bond or against him, the bond between my soul and his soul simply IS and the energies and love just flows between unless the bond is blocked by being made dormant/asleep or either of us can't see/walk the open bond itself. It's just like having a passage tunnel right in to my inmost self that goes only to his inmost self. To extend my spiritual defenses/protections along the bond the close it around him is just to close it so the entire channel and both ends of what it connects is within the protections. If that makes sense.It's just to close the protective sphere rather than having a channel into the sphere where anything that gets in past his defenses would have conduit to me via him if it so desired.

I'm probably over thinking it. It's just, I can't make the promise it won't happen again that I block a malevolent energy feeding entity and it affects his ability to reach me via the bond, I can only promise the bond won't be blocked by me UNLESS I am threatened in that way again by something reaching me via the bond using him as conduit through him to reach me..