I should mention, in the name of full honesty, it remains true that the one thing that would push me to look elsewhere and to do whatever I have to do to mute or sever the bond (everything short of trusting Odin) is for him to be dating other women and for me to get overlays of him with them again like I did when he was with the scorpion chick in Raleigh. If he wants to date other people that's his choice - but I consider it ethically wrong to do so while you have a bond to someone else so that all your strong emotions reach them regardless the distance.  So if he makes that choice,  I will respond to making the bond dormant or dead so such overlays cannot reach me.   I will get any ally except Odin I can find to make the bond incapable of transmitting between us so that where it is will just be empty silence, the moment I get even one single overlay of him with anyone else.  Because that is ethically wrong to do to a third party who has every right to assume their private moments are indeed private. 

Anyone advising him "there are other fish in the sea" or "you'll be happier if you just start dating again" is advising him how he can lose even the inner contact to reach me and how to force him to live the rest of this life with that echoing hollow emptiness inside no matter who he's with. I will do it, no matter the cost of doing it - and right now we are at one of the peaks in power amongst certain allies by being so near summer solstice. And if the price of my request is I return to living unincarnated amongst the fae for however long, I'll pay that for the sake of ethics and he will lose all ways of reaching me via the inner bond AND all chances in upcoming lifetimes to even hope to find me again for as many centuries or millennia as I choose to go back to being among them rather than incarnating. 

That's where that advice that he should look elsewhere will lead him if he feels anything strongly enough with another girl to cause overlays to reach me.  That inner emptiness and silence he experienced back in 2015/2016 when I had the fairy king and queen put the bond to sleep so I'd stop getting overlays of his strong emotions while he was with the Scorpion chick.  It will be that impossibly deafening lonely empty silence inside him for the rest of this life and for as many foreseeable lives as I am not incarnating. Not just for one hour a week of me fighting him pushing him away due to the poisons of his choices in that hour, but that intense emptiness and aloneness in his internal quiet for all the rest of his life and an indefinite number of his future lives. 

As bad as things are now, there's still the bond and both our love can flow down it reach the other person no matter what and he can always reach me in dream space.  One single overlay that makes me voyeur against my will of his strong emotions with a third party and I will do whatever I must to insure the bond won't be used that way again.  that's the consequence of him taking the advice that there are plenty of other women out there rather than trying to fix what was broken in October 2018. 

He's allowed to make that choice to date other girls if that's what he wants - but I'm giving warning that the consequences of even one sexually related overlay reaching me will be me doing whatever is necessary to put the bond asleep dormant again so that the overlays can't reach me and then there will only be emptiness and silence and no way to reach me for the rest of his life and potentially an unknown number of his future lives.  

And don't imagine for a second that if cornered by his free will choices and the ethics of it that I would hesitate over sacrificing whatever I must to stop any third party overlays from reaching me. If you don't realize that, you don't know my nature at all. 

I give this warning not because I have any intention of doing so now or in the near future but because when I say I'll always choose to be single if there's even an improbable chance of us being together, that does not include if he chooses to bring a third party into the mix and I receive overlays from his experiences that are creating intense emotions in him.  Needs of sexual release are one thing and as long as they're done safely and without dishonesty then whatever, but making me be voyeur via the bond between our souls of acts the third party has a right to assume private is another thing entirely..... This isn't warning of a personal reaction from my emotions, it's warning of the cause and effect relation of the ethical dilemma such a situation creates and what to expect from me.  

P. S. 11:11pm addendum: Storms out of nowhere tonight, the sort that just pop up like popcorn not building or moving along a front. Severe thunderstorm watch til 4am. And apparently once again lows in the 40s starting Monday following another round of storms on Sunday.  But we did get some rain tonight.  Which is good because I didn't water any of my plants outside at work this evening - the rugs at work were steam cleaned today and the shampoo gave me an instant migraine so I left and went straight home....it's finally gone enough so I can make something to eat without fear of me throwing it back up.   I have all my hours in this week and I'll be able to work outside in my garden bed over the weekend, but I have no idea when the chemicals will dissipate so I'll be able to work in the office next without an instant migraine. Joy of joys.....